Hallway to Nowhere

Tag: social distancing

  • Social Life? What’s THAT?

    Before Covid-19 hit, I was a facsimile of a functional human. I attended meetings of all kinds, frequent protests, and…actually had a SOCIAL LIFE. GASP! Yes, for pretty much the first time in my freaking life, I was doing things that I had always read about: I visited other people on a regular basis; friends came to hang out with me; and I even occasionally-can you believe it-had dinner parties! I went to restaurants, a play every now and then, shopped at the farmers market for produce for great produce AND to catch up on all the local haps, and loved to browse in all the downtown shops (spent a fair amount of change there, too.)

    Now this has all come to an abrupt and full stop. All meetings are done via Zoom. I did attend ONE protest for BLM in Abingdon after the shooting of George Floyd; most participants wore masks and social-distanced, EXCEPT for the police present. (My first and last in-person event. Unless the election goes badly. Then I’ll figure F-it. And join others. Democracy being at stake is worth it, yeah?) But other than ONE steadfast friend who has remarkably wonderfully decided that I shouldn’t be subjected to transit during this time, I see no-one. And really wouldn’t HEAR from anyone, except for this friend and one other friend who calls every day. Everyone else has dropped away, unless I call them. Which I try NOT to do anymore, really. Because one, it feels intrusive now. And two, it gets exhausting having to be the one always doing this. And I’m getting tired of trying when the effort doesn’t seem to be returned. It takes me awhile to learn, y’all, but eventually I DO learn what you are trying to tell me without actually telling me, yeah? So I’ll stop. Sorry for the bother.

    It’s all digital now (for me, at least), folks! Friends are electric! Since I don’t DRIVE and don’t have a YARD, I don’t get to participate in the new version of what social life is now. Friends tell me about dinner parties held outdoors and trips to the new Barter-at-the -Moonlite. This all sounds delightful. I’m happy folks are finding ways to cope. But another friend who lives in an apartment, who doesn’t drive, and who makes minimum wage and I were discussing this. Society seems to be drawing even more lines right now, and the stark differences between those who are privileged and those who aren’t get made clearer and clearer. (As if we couldn’t see them before!)

    I appreciate everyone who has reached out via text or on FB to inquire about the well-being of Miss P! As you know, SHE is more important to me than me. So that means more than I can say. So thank you all for caring about the well-being of this beautiful whippet! I love you all for that. And for the tangible gifts as well: the St. Francis medal (and a whole order nuns to pray for her!); the mishaberachs; a snuggly sheepskin rug; home-cooked meals; and an in-person priestly blessing!

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  • “We’re All In This Together” : FALSE!

    During a Zoom meeting last night, one of the participants repeated this phrase several times. By the second reiteration, I wanted to PM her and ask, “Seriously? You STILL think this?” But not the time or place. So here we go, b/c apparently some of you out there do believe that this hackneyed phrase applies. I’ll even do it bullet-point, to make it extra simple for you:

    The United States has the highest number of COVID-19 cases (both infections and deaths) in the WORLD. I’m not listing the number here, b/c it changes so rapidly. And that is not a RESULT of our (poorly administered) testing; indeed, it is a glaring indictment. Most credible medical expects think the number is much higher than the number we know, because we still aren’t doing things like contact tracing. Due to the hodgepodge manner in which states were forced to address this on their own, rather than have it addressed on a national systemic level for EVERYONE, we’re seeing states reopen, close again, while cases and deaths continue to rise.

    • WHO is affected by COVID-19 in terms of severity is wildly disproportionate. African Americans and Latinos have been much harder hit (as in likely to be hospitalized and die) from this than whites, while having less access to heathcare resources. Seniors and those with preexisting health problems are both at risk groups, as we’ve seen COVID-19 decimate nursing homes and assisted living facilities. Those who are lower-income have fared less well, though they get less press than glittery celebs who got infected. (See, they were TRYING to show us that they’re human, too! And I know that some died. I’m sorry.)
    • How you survived during quarantine would vary. If you had money to cushion the nest, that helped. IF you had a social network to call upon to help with the isolation, that helped. If you HAD INTERNET (and where I live, this is NOT a given for people!), this would be your absolute lifeline. But for some: those surviving on a limited income; those who live alone and had no social circle: those who depended upon public outlets such as the library and the Community Center: this must have been a nightmare.
    • Essential workers. Let’s mention for minute about how THEY might feel about this “ALL IN IT” nonsense. Healthcare workers who couldn’t get needed PPE? Those unseen who work (often at minimum wage) to keep healthcare facilities OPERATING? How about grocery workers; warehouse workers and those who harvest the food we depend upon? Those who work in the meat-processing plants that keep getting shut down b/c of COVID-19 outbreaks?
    • Masks and social distancing. By now everyone knows that wearing a mask will help prevent the spread of COVID-19. Or at least, everyone has HEARD this info. But obviously not everyone believes it. Or cares. Or thinks it more important than their individual liberty or political belief or whatever. They are content to let OTHERS do the work (wearing a mask) for THEM and also to put OTHERS (those of us wearing masks) in harms way. In other words, they DGAF about the rest of us.

    I could go on. But you get my point. We are in NO WAY “all in this together”. Like everything ELSE humans do, we are divided by our beliefs, our values, our culture. I could get discouraged here. I DO get discouraged. But then again, I’ve never expected much from humanity taken en masse. My motto is: expect the worst and do the best I can.